"Friends" is an interesting word. There are so many different definitions for "friends".
Some people define who they are by the "friends" they have. Others have no interest in having "friends". They like being alone and without any connections.
"Friends" can be people who you attend an event, church, or club with. The mere proximity of another human makes you "friends". Guys usually have "friends" who they talk to about every six months and that may come in the form of a brief "Whats up man?" Guys express friendship by doing something together or working alongside one another.
Girls are much different. Friends share through communication. Talking is big with girls to be "friends". The talking does not even have to be meaningful and personal....(with the exception of talking about your kids). Although from what I've heard a "close" girl friend is willing to listen to the deep, personal things.
Usually people want a certain kind of "friend". Kinda like shopping for a car. What make, model, appearance, factory warranty, flaws, mileage, and don't forget maintenance are included? "Friends" can be a way to exchange goods and services.
Bottom line...who is going to pick a "friend" where they are on the giving end of the deal.
Who in their right mind would give for someone else's benefit and not their own?
Who would give knowing that they will be betrayed?
Who is seriously going to want a high maintenance friend?
Who is a friend that will give up everything - even his life - for his friend?
Who is that sort of friend?
John 15:15 - I no longer call you servants...instead I have called you friends.
John 15:13 - Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one's life for one's friends.
I remember when one of my "bff's" told me he had been dumbstruck by the realization that God didn't just *love* him, He *liked* him.
ReplyDeleteI think everything on this earth that lights a spark of appropriate delight in us is genetically linked to what God had-and has-intended for us. If we "feel" delight in friendship now, just think what we will find in heaven.